The truth is, we do not behave in accordance with the reality of what we can do but in accordance to the reality of what we believe we can do; or, all too often, what we believe we can't do.
Moving beyond our limiting beliefs is a crucial first step towards becoming successful. So, it stands to reason if we change the way we believe then we can change the way we act and that in turn will change our outcome.
How are our belief systems created?
As humans, our fundamental behaviors, belief systems and attitudes developed as we observed our parents and these patterns become "hard-wired" as the synaptic pathways in our subconscious mind. Once programmed into our subconscious mind, they control our biology and become the defining "truths" for the rest of our live.
In the early stages of our development every emotional thought leaves a record in our subconscious mind. But unlike a video camera, we don't record exactly what is happening, rather, we record our interpretation of what we believe is happening. As children we record in our subconscious what we perceive is happening. It is this difference in interpretation that forms our different personalities and attitudes, even when we are raised in the same family.
One of the most powerful and pervasive limiting beliefs that most of us face is, that we are not capable enough, smart enough to accomplish our goals.
Where does this come from? Like almost all of our belief systems, it stems from our early childhood programming. Our parents, with the best of intentions, told us things like, "no, no you can't do that yet. Here let me do that for you and you can try it later, when you're bigger."
We carried these feelings of and inability into our adulthood, which is then reinforced when we make mistakes or have other "failures."
The other belief system that we carry over from childhood that can become completely debilitating is the feeling that we are unworthy. When we feel unworthy it means that we feel that we don't deserve to be treated well, that we don't deserve to be treated with respect and dignity.
Instead we have feelings that I am not, "smart, attractive, rich, old or young enough."
Letting go of Limiting Beliefs
Whatever our strong belief is, it becomes for us our truth and that truth becomes our wall of defense against conflicting beliefs. Trying to hold a conflicting belief in our mind causes stress and anxiety, so our subconscious mind feeds us supportive information to prove that we’re right so we can hold on to our existing belief system.
The problem with this situation is that it can work against us in seeking out the truth, because we operate with the belief that the truth is as we see it but not as it is.
It starts with a little voice in our head.
We carry on a constant conversation with ourselves, which is a three-dimensional thought-form, made up of words, pictures and emotions, as we perceive (interpret) what we think, hear and see. This is the creative process we use to build our self-image.
Our self-image, the subconscious picture that we’ve been recording all our lives; is the accumulation of our attitudes, opinions, of all our thoughts stored and recorded since childhood. And this is this picture that controls how we think and therefore how we act.
Knowing that every statement you make about yourself affects your subconscious, it's important to be careful about what you say about yourself. Other people can voice their opinions about you, but it's what you think and believe about yourself that determines your self-image.
Whatever self-image you create is stored in the subconscious as reality; this is the power of building a positive or negative self-image. Whatever experience you replay, through self-talk, is, as far as your subconscious is concerned, what's happening in that moment, because the subconscious does not recognize the difference between a real or imagined experience or between the past and the future. As far as the subconscious is concerned, whenever self-talk is going on is happening now and it’s reinforcing a dominant belief system.
As these thoughts and emotions accumulate, they create patterns of belief. As these patterns build up in our minds, we act on those beliefs and when we act on those beliefs we are creating the self-fulfilling prophecy we call life.
Breaking the Pattern
We have two types of self-image, and overall self-image and a specific self-image for specific areas of our lives. Each of these self-images is created in the same way, is as how we handle them.
Becoming consciously aware that our self-image controls how we perform, that performance creates our reality; we can begin to use our conscious awareness to begin changing our long-held limiting beliefs.
The key here is becoming "consciously aware."
It's self-talk that got you here and it's self-talk that can get you where you want to go.
There are two ways that being consciously aware can positively impact your belief systems.
The first is by self-reinforcing positive self-talk. Whenever you become aware of something or are made aware of something by someone else (no matter how big or how small you think that something is) that makes you feel good - reinforce those feelings through continued positive self-talk and affirmations.
The second way that being consciously aware can positively impact your belief system is to cease attacking your self-image when your performance does not live up to your expectations.
When you become conscious that you’re engaging in negative self-talk, simply tell yourself to "Stop It!" Tell yourself, “This is not the way I usually do it” or that “It's not like me to do something like that.” What you are doing is "reframing" your perspective and using these statements to give immediate and positive feedback to your subconscious.
The End Result
Your success and goals are directly proportional to your self-esteem.
It is your self-image that controls the use of your potential.
If you have low self-esteem, you attract negative influences that prevent you from achieving your goals. And of course, the reverse is also true when you have higher self-esteem you attract what you need to help you achieve success.
When you have a positive self-image you do things that create success and if you occasionally have a “failure” you don't accept it as your fate.
What we all want in life is to feel good and be happy. It's that simple. It's the feeling that we’re after. Knowing that, we can begin to talk to ourselves about it.
Positive self-talk combined with creative imagination (constructive visualization) are the most powerful tools you have to move you from where you are now to where you want to be.
How do we limit our limiting beliefs?
Claude Bristol described it this way in his wonderful book, The Magic of Believing: "This subtle force of repeated suggestion overcomes our reason. It acts directly on our emotions and our feelings, and finally penetrates to the very depths of our subconscious minds. It's the repeated suggestion that makes you believe."
To Your Success,
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