Social networking online is...
...all about everything you learned in kindergarten.
If you have not read Robert Fulghum’s book All I Really Need To Know I Learned in Kindergarten it is definitely worth the read. In fact, the book has been recently updated with 15 new essays.
At the beginning of the book Robert Fulghum writes:
All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate-school mountain, but there in the sandpile at Sunday School. These are the things I learned:
- Share everything.
- Play fair.
- Don’t hit people.
- Put things back where you found them.
- Clean up your own mess.
- Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
- Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or your government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm.
Social networking is really an adult ‘sophisticated’ term for making friends.
You do not have to have thousands of friends or huge lists of ‘friends’. What is truly important is creating quality relationships. They can certainly expand to include many friends until you have a community of friends all sharing ideas and goals, but it all starts by creating quality friendships.
The challenge for making friends online is similar to the scenario of a kid in a candy store who wants to grab as many candies as possible. Can he really eat 5000 candies?
In kindergarten you learned to ask questions during ‘Show and Tell’. You learned to be respectful and to include others into your circle. And you learned not to grab!
I enjoyed reading the way Kris Newland explains social media relationships in her article.
"I feel like this group is my meetup place to talk to all of my friends and find out what they have been up to. I leave messages, ask for help, and receive support and encouragement from people all over the world. Some, I did have the pleasure to meet at an event in Portland, OR but others I have never met in person. It doesn't matter to me though. I feel that I know each of them and feel a connection when we exchange messages that I don’t have in other areas of my life."
It is odd how we have to come up with rules on how to relate and make friends. Then buzz words like social networking pop up; next more rules on how to social network (make friends) correctly.
As is often the case though, children are the masters at demonstrating how to social network.
They ask the important questions like: What is your name? Where do you live? Will you be my friend? Do you want to play?
Follow the rules of play fair, share, and be kind.
Now with online social networking we hide behind websites and forget all the things we learned as children.
The secret to social networking is - that there is no secret. Being social online is simply transferring your kindergarten friendship skills to your online world. You will find that by building genuine, caring relationships you are also doing other things like successfully building your home business.
To Your Success,
P.S. Small Biz Incubator is all about building online relationship s and starting a home business successfully.